Consider risks of finding birth family

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WITH the growing popularity of social network sites, it has become increasingly easy for adopted people to find members of their birth family and for birth relatives to find them.

It is very tempting to just click that button and send a message.

However, there are risks that should be considered before doing this.

For both adopted people and birth relatives, being contacted out of the blue can be very traumatic.

What happens if someone gets a negative response or finds themselves thrown into a situation they unprepared for?

To help people in these situations, the British Association for Adoption & Fostering (BAAF) has produced a series of ten top tips for adopted people; adoptive parents and birth relatives.

Advice is given on how to be safe using social media; what to think about before making contact and what to do if you are contacted.

Information is also given about how to best trace and contact someone safely and also what your legal rights are.

The ten top tips can be found, free of charge, on BAAF’s search and reunion website www.adoptionsearchreunion.org.uk.

Julia Feast

British Association for Adoption & Fostering (BAAF)

6-10 Kirby Street

London

EC1N 8TS

Install effective speed deterrents

AT A time when Wigan Council need to make big budget cutbacks, I am amazed at the so-called speed bumps they have installed on Windsor Road, Ashton.

I am completely in favour of trying to stop the lunatics who speed down our road every day.

But, come on, install some that are effective, not these square blocks that wide vehicles just drive over at speed as if they were not there and which motorcycles take great pleasure in speeding through the middle of.

R Hornby

via email

Clinic nurses not district

I CAN sympathize with Tony O’Dwyer over his problems with the district nurses.

In 2007, I went into Wrightington Hospital for an ankle replacement. All went well and I was sent home with my ankle encased in a special boot and on crutches. I was told to contact the district nurses after 10 days to have my stitches removed.

However, on the morning after my leaving hospital, I noticed a few water blisters had developed around the ankle, so I asked my next door neighbour to run me up to Wrightington to have them seen to. I contacted the district nurses at our local clinic later on and made the mistake of telling them of my trip to Wrightington. Bad move!

They told me that as I had proved that I was mobile, I would have to go to the clinic to have the stitches removed. Mobile? I was on crutches, couldn’t drive and lived three-quarters of a mile from the clinic!

I argued, but they were adamant.

They had the criteria and were sticking to it. I had to make arrangements for my kind neighbour to take me there.

I think the district nurses should be renamed clinic nurses as they will do anything not to come out to see you.

Fred Foster

Bold Street

Wigan